Friday, December 11, 2009

THE CLIQUE MENTALITY by Denise Vasquez

Illustrations by Denise Vasquez

What are we in high school?!?

I never liked the "Clique" mentality in high school...couldn't wait to be away from it!

For many years I hoped people would eventually grow out of cliques & grow into WORKING TOGETHER!

For those of you that don't know what a "Clique" is, a Clique is a small exclusive group of people sharing common interests...

Cliques are also known as clans, crews, gangs, pack, mafia, posse, coterie...

During high school, I was who I wanted to be...ME!

...I was, and STILL AM, a nerd, a jock, an artist, a philosopher, a free spirit, an activist...

I was friends with people because of who there were as
HUMAN BEINGS...
and still am...

I was friends with almost everyone... and to this day, I still like being friends with pretty much everyone...

Unless they are negative, energy vampires, gossipers, two-faced, fake, users, & abusers... I stay away from those people...

I Never had the desire to be a part of or support a group or club that isolated or punished someone who wasn't a part of the group...

Nor did I have desire to be a part of a group that requires one to brown nose or kiss up to members or sacrifice your sense of being, in order to be included...

It's unfortunate as an adult to see these Cliques exist even outside of High School!

You can see them quite often even in the workplace...cliques gang up against each other! It's pretty sad!

I've always stayed true to myself, and if I get ousted from a "Clique" I know that they were never really my TRUE friends anyway!

As John Lennon said "IMAGINE"...

I can only imagine what we can accomplish as a society if we all worked TOGETHER!

Together WE CAN make a difference!

PeAce LOvE aRt & sOuL
Denise Vasquez

1 comment:

  1. I felt the same way --in Junior High, I was in the clique, and I left it. I really couldn't bear the way they all would talk badly about each other. And from week-to-week there were a few girls who would change who they thought should be in the innermost circle. From the most popular, to suddenly out and all the girls would gang up on the girl that was suddenly out that week. It made no sense to me then.

    Now that I am "grown up", I see people still acting that way. It just blows my mind. Just the other day, I saw some PR people doing it at a luncheon. To me, it appears to be bottomless insecurity. That it's the only way that those doing the behind-the-back stabbing, and the power trippin, are so desperately insecure, that they have no selfhood. And that talkin like that makes them feel materialized for a second.

    I feel sad for them. But I feel sadder for the victims of their freefloating harm, because it is harm they intend. That ain't nuttin but freaky to me.

    And without conscience.

    Thanks for writing this post. LIked it a lot. Related to it, too.

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